This is continued from How to repel guys: a beginner’s guide, which you can read here. Or you can scroll down you lazybones.
The short story is that there was no second date. After I came back from the weekend in Phoenix, I had one text from him that said “Hey!” At that point I was still thrilled from our first date and feeling super optimistic, so I texted him back immediately.
Kay: Hey! (some joke about crazy old people in trailer parks in Arizona)
Tim: (Old people joke that I chuckled at)
Kay: So about that second date…
Tim: I’m on it. Just trying to plan something that can top skating and Tim Horton’s.
Kay: Uh okay cool. Let me know when you’ve come up with something.
And then I didn’t hear from him. Okay, I told myself, I read some signals wrong. Maybe he was just too polite to say that he didn’t have as much fun on our date as I did. Maybe there’s another girl he likes. Maybe the only reason we stayed out so late on that first date was because he was too polite to say he had to go.
But none of those justifications made sense to me. I mean, that date had felt so good. I couldn’t have been the only one to notice that. And then there was this conversation with Nee a week or so after I got back from Phoenix:
Nee: So I was talking to Tim…
Kay: (Immediately perks up but tries to play it cool) Oh really?
Nee: He says you guys went on a date and it went really well. Does he mean the skating thing? I didn’t realize that was a date…
Kay: Yeah it kind of turned into one.
Nee: Well do you like him?
Kay: (awkward smile) I like him a lot…
Nee: Oops. I kind of told him that you weren’t interested in him. I mean, I didn’t think he was really your type.
Kay: Noo why did you do that? And since when do I have a type??
Nee: Sorry! But for what it’s worth I think he really likes you. He was super excited and he was like, I think I have a chance with her!
Kay: (still trying to play it cool but actually exploding with relief and excitement) Really? That’s great. I hope he asks me on another date.
I mean, was it because Nee told him that I didn’t like him? He wouldn’t give up solely based on that, would he?
I give up. On trying to understand guys, on trying to attract them and letting myself like them. It doesn’t seem to matter if I think I’m doing everything right. Clearly I have some sort of guy repeller vibe that scares off any potential suitors. Maybe it’s because I use words like suitors.
Okay WordPress people, I need advice. What am I doing wrong?