My brother, Pal, broke up with his girlfriend of two years about a month ago. Since then, he has found a new girlfriend, and she has written about a hundred posts on Tumblr about her general loneliness and depression.
The Ex and I have always been good friends. We share a mutual love for Forever XXI, chocolate, and blogging. However, I just cannot understand her right now. It appears that she thinks about Pal 24/7 and ignores all of her friends’ attempts to cheer her up. She’s started quoting Sex and the City, “It should take half the time you were dating to get over someone.”
Now I’ve never been in a serious relationship, and I’ve never been in love, so maybe that’s why I can’t see this from her point of view. I can’t understand why she is wasting away months crying over a boy (and my brother for that matter). She’s got so much going for her: she’s taking graphic design and she’s really talented at it, she has, like, hundreds of followers on Tumblr, and she is so petite and adorable that she can pull off wearing absolutely gorgeous dresses all the time without looking overdressed.
She calls the break-up a “plot twist” and claims that it was completely out of the blue, even though anyone could tell that it was not working out between them, particularly because they were living in two different cities.
If I ever got like this about a guy, I think I would honestly hate myself.. To me it just feels like a betrayal of yourself, basing so much of your hapiness on one other person. I certainly want to fall in love, but I don’t want to lose myself the way it seems the Ex is. My confidence and self-sufficiency are qualities that I take pride in, and if I lost that over a guy, I don’t know who I would be anymore.